- When you visit someone and are planning to stay there for a few days, it is
a nice idea to carry a small gift for that person.
- If you are asked to share a room with their children, you must not make a
fuss about it.
- Always be courteous and keep the room clean and tidy. Do not leave your
belongings lying around for them to have to pick up.
- You can offer to help them in any little task.
- Always remember to clear your plate from the dining table.
- Be courteous to the servants in your guests` household.
SOME rules of etiquette or good manners are different in different
communities. For example, belching after a meal is okay in China, but bad
manners in the West. Shaking hands is good manners abroad but in India, the
traditional `namaste` is favoured. Eating with the fingers is common in our
country, but frowned upon elsewhere in the world.
However, good manners have a lot to do with being considerate and sympathetic
towards others` feelings. That is a human value and has little to do with
custom. Standing at the back of a lift if you have to get off on the second
floor and then pushing your way out, is bad manners. Good manners is a
combination of consideration, custom and common sense. This monthly column will
focus on good manners in different places and situations - in the home, in
school and in public places.
- At Home
Home is where you first learn to interact with other
people. People feel that one can behave in any way one likes with ones family
members. But that is wrong! Everybody in a household should respect the rights
and feelings of everybody else.